Pondering this morning, I came across an email from a friend I don’t get to see much anymore and miss our chit chats at her house. She sent an encouraging email to a bunch of people, one of those forwards I usually don’t pay much attention to but this one was intriguing. So, I decided to share on the blog today!
The point of the email was how when we are children, we can’t wait to grow up. It’s all we think about. Someone asks your 4 year old self how old you are and you reply “four and a half!” proudly because you are ALMOST five! However, no one says “I’m 32 and a half”. They would most likely reply with something along the lines of “ugh, I turned 30 a couple years ago” 🙂 So, you see? When we are kids, we think that growing up is the coolest thing since sliced bread or microwaves, so to speak. We can’t wait to be a TEENAGER. Then we can’t wait to DRIVE. Then, we can’t wait to become 21!!! Ohhh the joys of TWENTY-ONE…. I didn’t really care that much but most 20 year olds do very much. I remember I always wanted to be 25…that seemed like the perfect age. You were a real adult but still young enough to do fun stuff and not have too much responsibility. But then 30 comes along (and my 30th sucked royally by the way) and you think “crap, I really am an official adult now and I have to do adult things”. Yeah, I’m not really into that. I have decided I have Peter Pan Syndrome and I am going to embrace it FULLY!
So, some things I jotted down today from said email all seem like wonderful things to adhere your life to in a loose fashion but it seems to be a good pattern for a long life. So, without further adieu, I will share with you 10 thoughts to live by, if you so choose:
1. Throw out nonessential numbers – such as age, weight, height. who cares??
2. Keep only cheerful friends – those grouchy ones pull you down
3. Keep learning – no matter what it is. Never let your brain become idle.
4. Enjoy the simple things – whatever they are to you
5. Laugh often and LOUD – laugh til you gasp for breath
6. Tears happen – endure, grieve, and move on. YOU are the only person you have to live with forever so LIVE
7. Surround yourself with what you love – your home is your refuge. Make it reflect what you are passionate about.
8. Cherish your health – preserve it and improve it so you can keep it
9. Don’t take guilt trips – take shopping trips or travel somewhere instead. Let it go.
10. Tell the people you love that you do – often
I think that we, especially Americans, get so wrapped up in what society thinks we should do, or what our parents think we should do, or what our community thinks we should do and then we throw on all the crap that TV and the media provides and suddenly, we are very distracted from what is truly LIVING. Don’t live to work; work to live but do what you like and then it won’t feel like work! I am still looking for this job in Yuma…. 🙂 And do we ever have it all figured out? Nope. Not a one of us. So, focus on the things that are important to you and your family and don’t worry about what other people are focusing on or what is important to them. Just this past weekend, I was reminded of this exact point. I was in a social setting with a bunch of people from all walks of life and just looking around, you could see so many who didn’t feel comfortable just being themselves. They were trying to so hard to fit in to this social scene and be accepted. It makes me sad. I feel like we are pressured with that in high school and then it just keeps following us. I wish that everyone could just let go of whatever it is they are ‘trying to be’ and just BE. Do whatever it is that fulfills THEM, not their peers or co-workers or friends or whomever. It took me a long time to figure this out. I played that game for far too long and it is absolutely exhausting. It seems now it’s much easier to be myself and follow my dreams rather than concern myself with what someone might label me as or what social category I fit into. I don’t think they list ‘social categories’ at funerals 🙂
Be yourself today! Have fun! Enjoy your passions! And never let anyone or anything distract you from doing so!!!